May 25 2012

Men know early on when they’ve met The One. Yes/No?


(OkCupid original post date: 5/17/12. The original post is called “Men, I need your opinion.”)

I thought this was interesting:


What Henry says about men and knowing early on – is this what all/most men think? I’ll give more context later. [What happened next was a bunch of people commented and said, no, what Henry says is bullshit].


Edit 1 (5/17/12): New question that has to do with the original topic: True or untrue – You’re a guy, you’re walking along a street, and you see a bunch of girls. You can easily differentiate between the girls you’d like to get to know better (you’re attracted to physically) and the girls who are “eh”. Now, from these girls you’re physically attracted to: can you tell within a short amount of time after talking to them if they are “long-term” potential or “short-term” potential? Long-term = you have respect for her. You want to do things for her. You want to make her happy. She makes you happy. Short-term = you’re not really feeling it, but she’s okay. No one you’d want to start a family with or anything. You don’t mind having sex with her and keeping her around, but YOU ALREADY KNOW it’s not going to go anywhere. You know this very early on.

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May 24 2012

How to Make Your OkCupid Profile Interesting and Readable


(OkCupid original post date: 3/1/08)

I’ve found myself bitching about this lately on OkCupid, so I’ll just write about it and be done with it.

So I’m not exactly a connoisseur on this (in fact, people have told me I should change/update my own profile, but I don’t really care since I’m not using this site to find dates) but I know what interests me and what makes me read a profile in its entirely.

It is so incredibly rare that I find good ones that I actually message people with profiles that I REALLY like to tell them so.

Rule #1: Show, Don’t Tell

Remember at school, how when you wrote stories, your teachers always told you this? “Jane walked to class. She was sad and mad. She had just caught her boyfriend and best friend cheating on her, and now Jane was completely alone.” Boring. Do we care about Jane? Do we give a shit who she is? No.

“As Jane walked to class, she could feel the wind whipping the tears across her face. The darkening sky smirked at her, threatening to unleash a storm at will. Jane walked faster, thinking about what had happened. She tried to erase the image of Jack, her boyfriend, and Sarah, her best friend, entangled on his couch. His pants pulled to his knees. Running his fingers through her soft, brown hair. Her, on top of him, shining with sweat.” So the second one is not perfect either, but it’s more interesting, right? It’s more descriptive and makes you wonder more than the first one. The same thing goes for profiles.

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May 24 2012

Have I ever dated anyone from OkCupid?


(OkCupid original post date: 5/7/12)

The short answer is yes. There was this one guy. He deleted his profile years ago, and I have no idea if he’s still around with a new account. Here’s how the long story goes…

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