Comment of the Day: Rejection

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To kick off, I picked a great comment from Redditor impotent_rage, who responded to these lines from Part 8:

He respected my decision, didn’t try anything, and really just backed off, but without being awkward or rude. I’ve told guys in the past I wasn’t interested, and some got really shitty and offended and couldn’t handle rejection very well. Those guys were childish, and Tim was not. I was impressed. His maturity at handling the situation combined with the fact that he wasn’t chasing me any more made me see him in a different light.

“This right here. I can’t even begin to tell you how important it is, the way you handle rejection. Guys who handle rejection with maturity become instantly more attractive (sometimes to the point that it reverses the rejection). Guys who become, well, not so mature, it makes me so glad that I made the decision to reject them. This includes getting too pouty or sad, or even worse – getting angry or defensive or “sour grapes” about it.

You learn a lot (a lot!) about a guy from how he reacts to rejection. You learn whether he was secretly overly invested in you (which indicates that his value is too low compared to yours), you learn whether he has maturity and self-awareness to be able to handle disappointment and frustration well, you learn whether he is entitled or egotistical. I think that you learn more about a guy when you reject him, than you ever do by dating him. It’s no surprise that rejected guys sometimes go on to get the girl, if they are able to handle rejection with grace and confidence.”

So very true, and well-said. I’ve had a few experiences with the “sour grapes” thing. One of the experiences is chronicled in Part B of the How To Be Young and Stupid story, and there are definitely more to be written about. So, final lesson? This one’s short. Men, don’t be dicks when women reject you. You never know what positive outcomes may await you..





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